Sunday, October 24, 2010

12: Family Finances (TTATF)

There are approximately 500 verses that deal with prayer, less than that dealing with the subject of faith, and over 2,000 dealing with money and possessions. Nearly half of the parables that Jesus taught dealt with money and possessions. Jesus had more to say about this subject than heaven or hell (148).

Today, we discussed family finances, looking at what the Word has to say about money.

Discussion Board Starters:

What impacted you from the Scriptures, chapter, or the discussion today?

Are there any comments, insights, or stories about money that come to mind?

What did you think of the discussion, led by those in the group?





Adapted from Vernell Ingle. (2005). The truth about the family: Biblical patterns and principles. Joplin, MO: Messenger Publishing House.
T.T.A.T.F. is available for half-price (courtesy of F.P.C.) to all who meet with us Sunday mornings
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Saturday, October 23, 2010

10-11: Crucial Communication & God's Wedding Gift (TTATF)

"God designed the sexual relationship to be experienced between husband and wife. It was designed to be beautiful, sacred and rich with meaning. Casual sex outside the marriage bond perverts and desecrates the design of God." (149)


We have spent the last 3 weeks on 2 chapters. We talked about communication skills in marriage, followed by a week on the way that God communicates with us. Last week, we were joined by the teens, and spent time discussing God's wedding gift.


Discussion Board Starters:


What are some thoughts from the book, Scriptures, or class that have made an impact on you?


Thinking about all three weeks together, how does good communication enhance God's wedding gift?






Adapted from Vernell Ingle. (2005). The truth about the family: Biblical patterns and principles. Joplin, MO: Messenger Publishing House.
  • T.T.A.T.F. is available for half-price (courtesy of F.P.C.) to all who meet with us Sunday mornings
  • Online orders available at M.P.H. for The Truth About the Family

Saturday, October 9, 2010

9: Families on Parade (TTATF)

"My goal as a parent is not for them to be compliant in what I think others deem as appropriate, but to shape and mold their hearts for them to be willing to be compliant to what God desires" ~ Crystal P. Ingle

This is the week that Crystal taught the class. Take a look at the book, review the outline and Scriptures below, think about the discussion, and post.

DYSFUNCTION AND DIVISION
Example 1: Lot and Family - Living on the Edge, Gen. 13.10-13; 19.12-14; 2 Pet. 2.7-8
Example 2: Isaac and Family - A House Divided, Gen. 25.27-28

LEGACY OF FAITH
Example 1: The Father of Faith - Father Abraham, Gen. 15.6; 18.16-19; 22.9-18
Example 2: A Focused Family - The Rechabites, Jer. 35.1-19

FAMILY PHOTO OF HEALTH
Ps. 128.1-4




Adapted from Vernell Ingle. (2005). The truth about the family: Biblical patterns and principles. Joplin, MO: Messenger Publishing House.
  • T.T.A.T.F. is available for half-price (courtesy of F.P.C.) to all who meet with us Sunday mornings
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Tuesday, September 21, 2010

7 & 8: Biblical Patterns for the Family & Parent (T.T.A.T.F.)

Discussion Board

Okay, the discussion board seemed to generate a few responses. Let's try it again!

Discussion Starters
  1. The idea is simple . . . post something
  2. Remember, you can post it anonymously if you want
  3. Maybe type a good quote (like below), leave the pg #, & explain why you like it
  4. Or share a thought from our Sunday Morning discussions the last couple weeks
  5. Or post a reaction to it all
  6. Or if you aren't joining us on Sunday Mornings, read the posts & share a thought
  7. Or share a random free association or something lol
Possible Quotation Starters

Chp. 7: Next to our relationship to God, the family relationships are the most important in life. It is in the home that the family members should be able to find security. The home should be a safe haven, a buffer from the outside world. God meant for the home to provide a nurturing environment for the family members. The idea of nurturing is to give the best care possible to cultivate and sustain life. (85)

Chp. 8: "As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth" (Psalm 127:4). In ancient culture sons of one's youthful marriage were considered a blessing. Because they could help defend the family in times of war or conflict, they were considered as arrows in the hand of a warrior. In legal affairs, which took place at the city gate, adult sons could participate in matters of legal defense as well. If the sons were well-spoken and presented themselves in a confident manner, they could prove to be an invaluable asset to the family. (101)

Scripture Starters from the Chapters

Chp. 7: Deuteronomy 6.1-9; Psalm 78.1-7; Matthew 7.24-27, 12.46-50, 5.14-16; 1 Peter 3.15-16; 1 Timothy 3.4-5

Chp. 8: Proverbs 22.6; Psalm 127.3-5; Mark 10.13-16; Deuteronomy 4.9, 6.20-25; Ephesians 6.1-4; 2 Timothy 1.7; 1 Samuel 3.11-14; Proverbs 13.24, 23.13; Hebrews 12.5-11








Adapted from Vernell Ingle. (2005). The truth about the family: Biblical patterns and principles. Joplin, MO: Messenger Publishing House.
  • T.T.A.T.F. is available for half-price (courtesy of F.P.C.) to all who meet with us Sunday mornings
  • Online orders available at M.P.H. for The Truth About the Family

Friday, September 10, 2010

5 & 6: Biblical Patterns for the Wife & Husband (T.T.A.T.F.)

Discussion Board This Week

We have covered a lot of ground in the last 2 weeks. I've asked the Young Adults about trying a Discussion Board versus a Blog, and the response has been Discussion Board!

Chapters 5 & 6 Starters
  1. The idea is simple . . . post something
  2. Remember, you can post it anonymously if you want
  3. Maybe type a good quote (like below), leave the pg #, & explain why you like it
  4. Or share a thought from our Sunday Morning discussions the last couple weeks
  5. Or post a reaction to it all
  6. Or if you aren't joining us on Sunday Mornings, read the posts & share a thought
  7. Or share a random free association or something lol
Chime In!

If a quote or thought from class doesn't stand out to you, try reacting to these two:

Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
"The term 'virtuous' in Proverbs 31:10 comes from a root meaning of strength. Figuratively speaking, it is the idea of noble character and strength. It speaks of the preciousness and rarity of such a noble woman. In the last part of the verse she is described as being more valuable than rubies. Next to the husband’s relationship to Jesus Christ, there is nothing more valuable in his life than his wife." (60-61)

"The husband as priest of the home must take the initiative spiritually. He is responsible for whether the family is faithful to church . . . for whether there are family devotions or not . . . His wife and children are the first to see Christ in him . . . he regularly comes into the presence of the Lord on behalf of his wife and children. His wife and children will experience the spiritual strength of his priesthood." (79)










Adapted from Vernell Ingle. (2005). The truth about the family: Biblical patterns and principles. Joplin, MO: Messenger Publishing House.
  • T.T.A.T.F. is available for half-price (courtesy of F.P.C.) to all who meet with us Sunday mornings
  • Online orders available at M.P.H. for The Truth About the Family

Saturday, August 28, 2010

4: Biblical Patterns for Living w/ Pastor Ingle (T.T.A.T.F.)

Last week, we were on the road, so the author (Pastor Vernell Ingle) guest lectured on Sunday morning. Here are some of his reflections:

"Singles in the U.S." He started with the following stats *
  • Singles are defined as adults who have never been married or divorced, or are widowed
  • 43% of all Americans over 18 are single
  • 61% of them have never said "I do"
  • 46% of American households are maintained by a single
  • In 2008 over 6 households were made up of singles who were cohabitating
  • About 500,000 of those households were same-sex couples
[Pastor observed that the same sex statistic seems far less than what is being portrayed by the media]
  • 766,000 single grandparents were caring for grandkids in 2008
Discuss: Pastor asked the following questions that we now ask you
  • What does this tell us about our American culture today?
  • How do we relate as a Church?
  • How do we reach them?
  • When there is a mindset that marriage is no longer necessary or sacred, how does the Church relate to them without compromising the Biblical standard?
The young adults talked about showing compassion, being non-judgmental, and still offering restoration and reconciliation.

"We live in relationships and every relationship involves certain responsibilities. These relationships and responsibilities are outlined in God's Word" (p. 43).
IMITATE CHRIST

Ephesians 5.1-2: Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn't love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that. (The Message)
1) To do what God does literally means "to mimic" in the Greek
2) His love was not cautious but extravagant - this is what we mimic

Philippians 2.1-5
1) Paul repeats the term if, which is also translated "since," changing the dynamics of the verse
2) "Since" we are receiving these graces in our relationship with God, then they should become part of our relationships with others


LIVE RIGHT: Ephesians 5.3-14
1) "Living a godly life means that we live a life of love and holiness" (p. 47).
2) As children of the light, we are now separate from those in the dark (verse 8)
3) "Separation does not mean isolation, but it does mean insulation" (p. 49)


BE SPIRIT-CONTROLLED: Ephesians 5.15-20
1) The word circumspectly means to have an awareness, to be aware of our surroundings
2) Redeem the time is to purchase or take advantage of every opportunity to do what is right

Ephesians 5.18: Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. (NIV)
1) To be filled or "controlled" by the Spirit is an on-going, daily control
2) "The negative is, 'Don't get drunk!' The positive is, 'Get drunk!'" (p. 51).
3) "If the Christian is going to get intoxicated with anything, it should be with the Holy Spirit" (p. 52).

Ephesians 5.19-20: Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. (NIV)
"Spirit-controlled Christians have a song in their heart. They know who their Lord is. They know who they are in the Lord and it comes out in their relationships with others. There is mutual love, respect, and submission" (Vernell Ingle).




* Statistics available from C.N.N. article Single? You're Not Alone (Census information)

Adapted from Vernell Ingle. (2005). The truth about the family: Biblical patterns and principles. Joplin, MO: Messenger Publishing House.
  • T.T.A.T.F. is available for half-price (courtesy of F.P.C.) to all who meet with us Sunday mornings
  • Online orders available at M.P.H. for The Truth About the Family

Thursday, August 26, 2010

3: The Key to Meaningful Relationships (T.T.A.T.F.)

"There is no other factor that distinguishes the unique Christian ethic more than the love of God. It begins and ends with Him. Ethics may be described as a system of moral values and/or a system of expected behavior. Since the love of God is the foundation of Christian ethics, the love of God should govern all that we are and all that we do. Thus, the standard for the Christian is not the Law, the Sermon on the Mount nor the epistles of the New Testament. The Christian standard is God Himself. God’s Word reveals who He is. And there is nothing that reveals God more accurately than His love for us" (p. 31).

THE UNIQUE CHRISTIAN ETHIC
1) What is there about me which cannot be explained in natural terms?
2) What is different about me from non-Christians?
3) What is unique about me that can only be explained through my relationship with Jesus Christ?

GOD IS LOVE: 1 John 4.7, 8, 13, 16
1) Why is it so difficult for us to comprehend the love of God?
2) In what ways do we tend to make God out to be human?
3) How is the love of God perfect?
4) Why is it better for us to dwell on God’s love for us rather than our love for Him?

LOVING GOD BACK: Matthew 22:34-40
1) How can a finite creature love an infinite, eternal and holy God?
2) What is significant about the heart in Scripture? Why is the heart the target of God?

EVIDENCE OF GOD’S LOVE: 1 John 4:19-21; Ephesians 5:32
1) What is the primary proof that we love God and why?
2) What does it mean to love our neighbor as ourselves? How do we do that?
3) What is the earmark of the love of God?

"The key to meaningful relationships is the love of God. For it is through our relationship with God that we experience His love for us. That love comes to us and fills us, and in turn flows out of our hearts toward others" (p. 40).








Adapted from Ingle, V. (2005). The truth about the family: Biblical patterns and principles. Joplin, MO: Messenger Publishing House.
  • T.T.A.T.F. is available for half-price (courtesy of F.P.C.) to all who meet with us Sunday mornings
  • Online orders available at M.P.H. for The Truth About The Family

Saturday, August 14, 2010

2: Why Marriage? The Truth About the Family

"The truth is, as goes the marriage, so goes the family; as goes the family, so goes the church; as goes the church, so goes a community; and as goes the community, so goes the nation. Note that the institution of marriage is the foundation upon which all other social dynamics rest" (Ingle, 2005, 21).

Because of the amount of content in chapter 1, we took 2 weeks to work through it. Last week, we waded into chapter 2, Why Marriage? We zeroed in on the section THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE: Matthew 19.1-4.

Haven't you read in your Bible that the Creator originally made man and woman for each other, male and female? (Jesus in The Message).

"The terms 'husband' and 'wife' are being replaced with such terms as 'significant other,' 'domestic partner' and 'companion.' The legalization and recognition of same-sex unions being placed on the same level as the traditional marriage is quickly gaining ground" (Ingle, 2005, 21).

We discussed the following questions from chapter 2:

Why has the institution of marriage been under attack?

How would you describe the meaning of marriage? How would you describe the value of marriage?

What is a covenant? How does the idea of a covenant relationship relate to the marriage?

How should the love of God play a part in the marriage?

There are other questions from chapter 2, and yet more to consider. However, these were enough to get the conversation started.













Adapted from Ingle, V. (2005). The Truth About the Family: Biblical Patterns and Principles. Joplin, MO: Messenger Publishing House.

Saturday, July 24, 2010

1: Back to The Beginning, The Truth About the Family

Genesis 1:26: And God said, Let us make man
in our image, after our likeness
"Here is implied the distinction and dignity of the human creature
as distinguished from the rest of God's creation" (p. 8).

We've started a journey together with the young adults at First Pentecostal Church (F.P.C.). We all are traveling through the book The Truth About the Family: Biblical Patterns and Principles (T.T.A.T.F.) by Pastor Vernell Ingle.

We're reading and talking about the T.T.A.T.F. on Sunday mornings at 9:30 am. There is an open invitation to the group. Join us anytime. It is open to all young adults (high school and older). Singles are welcome, because we are not only pursuing Biblical marriages, but Biblical families and community.

We're opening this blog, first as a Discussion Board for The Truth About the Family. There will be questions from each week and ways to interact. Read, post, and join us at F.P.C. if possible, because the destination is truth, but there will be joy in the journey.

Chp. 1 - Back to the Beginning

Texts: Genesis 1.26-28; 2.7; 1.31; 2.18-20; 2.21-23; 2.24-25

Questions: Take some a moment, use the questions to review chapter 1, answer a question or two, or share some thoughts from the last couple Sundays (all questions from p. 18).


1) What is the significance of God stating, “Let us make man in our image?” Why are these plural terms used? Who was God speaking to?


2) In what ways was man distinguished from the rest of God’s creation?


3) How does Genesis chapter 2 differ from chapter 1? What is the primary subject of chapter 2? What does this imply?


4) What was the only thing in God’s creation that He declared was not good? Why was this so?


5) What is significant in God taking a rib from Adam to create Eve?


6) Why did God bring Eve to Adam? What does this imply for the man in his treatment and understanding of the woman?


7) What are some practical ways that husband and wife can demonstrate mutual respect?


8) How can the married couple maintain a positive balance between loosing the ties with parents and retaining a good relationship with them?


9) How can the husband and wife truly cleave to each other without being possessive and controlling? How does a couple guard against this?


10) How important is commitment to the marriage relationship? What are some factors that contribute to the lack of commitment in marriage today?


11) How can this kind of commitment be cultivated in marriage?


12) Why were Adam and Eve not ashamed? How can a couple experience an absence of shame and guilt today? How would you define emotional nakedness? What is so difficult about emotional nakedness in relating as a married couple?






Adapted from Ingle, V. (2005). The truth about the family: Biblical patterns and principles. Joplin, MO: Messenger Publishing House.
  • T.T.A.T.F. is available for half-price (courtesy of F.P.C.) to all who meet with us Sunday mornings
  • Online orders available at M.P.H. for The Truth About The Family